It’s that time of year again! The month of LOVE.
The month where couples express their love for themselves and singles engage in the practice of seeking or finding Valentine’s.
I personally am all for a holiday that is all about love. It doesn’t have to cost money. It doesn’t have to be anything fancy. It is just a time to remind ourselves how important it is to simply express love. Wholly. Authentically. And without judgement.
A big piece of being able to wholly love others, however, is the ability to love ourselves. Self-love is the key to a happier, healthier, bliss-filled experience of the world. The outer world is merely a reflection of our inner world. The conversations that occur around us reflect our inner state. The people that we choose to be around reflect who we are inside. Everything you put out comes back to you. So how can we possibly expect to experience that blissful, fully immersive state of love when we don’t even love or honor ourselves?
Take a moment to think about these concepts. Think about the people around you. Think about the conversations you have regularly. Are these full of love? Or are they negative and fully of toxicity? How might that affect your experience in the world?
Now think about how you might be able to change this for yourself.
If you are not sure, don’t fret. I have a simple 2-step process for you to get started.
Step 1. Answer these questions
- What are some common negative thoughts that you experience regularly?
Write them down. Take a moment and really read them. Think about these thoughts may influence the world around you.
- What kind of statements can you replace them with right now?
Write them down. Take a moment and really read them. How different would life feel if you experienced these thoughts daily?
I encourage you to really reflect on your inner world and how your thoughts influence your experience of the world around you. Remember that by loving yourself, you are truly loving others. You are expressing your inner world.
Step 2: Write a list of self-love practices – call it your “self-love toolbox.”
Now, I want you to think about different ways you can practice self-love daily. (That’s right! Every. Single. Day.) Write down a list of everything that comes to mind.
Because the best way to truly experience love in the world is to really feel it within yourself. And self-love takes practice and discipline. The world is chaotic and there are a lot of forces at play. There are a lot of things that are out of our control.
But what we do have control of is ourselves. Our reactions to external factors. Our inner thoughts and feelings. And we can do this by creating rituals and daily practices that focus on self-love.
This is a list that you can use whenever you need. It can be simple things, such as taking a deep breath in between meetings and taking a bath at night with candles. It can be a commitment to coaching or therapy. It can be mantras. It can literally be anything that you want. Remember – keep it simple! It doesn’t have to be complicated.
And it has to make sense to YOU. What YOU see as self-love may be very different to someone else, and that is ok! We all have to define self-love in our own way. That is what makes is special, unique, and totally authentic.
And If you are up to it, I would like to offer you a challenge.
I do this every year around this time and its so much fun!
It is called the #selflovechallenge
Declare your commitment to yourself and to others by taking a picture of yourself and using the hashtag #selflovechallenge on either Instagram or Facebook. Let’s join forces and together inspire women from around the world to practice self-love. Let’s create a movement. A momentum. Let’s create change!
And share this post with anyone you think could benefit from some self-love right now!
I love hearing from you! Comment below and share your thoughts!